His first question to me was: Name your bad qualities, and then your good points.
His theory was that a person has to recognize their own limitations/weaknesses&flaws in order to change. And, a person has to see the good points within themselves to have self-esteem&strength of character as such changes are made.
MY BAD POINTS:
1. Procrastinator--My motto is, why do something now if it can be put off til later!Even paying bills.
I solved this idiocy somewhat by making a schedule every day&sticking to it. Its rigid, but its better than having the water cut-off because of late payment, or leting the clothes pile up in the laundryroom.
2. Lazy--related to 1. If i can do something sitting down instead of standing I'll do it!
3. Too lighthearted---Its great to see the funny side of everything but, I take it to extremes sometimes. This trait really annoyed my Ex, who would often lecture me about not being serious enough about Life. "You can't play all the time, Babe!" He'd tell me.
4. I Do NOT Forgive easily. I happen to believe that People realize when they are being hateful&mean, and most do NOT deserve forgiveness! But, at the same time I don't hold grudges to the point I make life Hell for the one who hurt me, either.
5. I fall in love too easily&don't get over it. Its good to love, but not with the wrong person&I hang on for ages before I finally give up hope.
6. My Temper is From Hell itself! You do not want to seriously make me angry! No, you don't!
7. Too Gullible--I tend to trust people too soon, although I am slowly after all these years finally learning to be cautious in dealing with people. Especially if Money is involved!
8. Overindulgence in Everything. I am a Maniac in a sense--At times, I overspend,overeat, overdrink, oversleeparound, oversleep, and even get busy&over do it. I use shoping to ake me feel good. When I'm sad I'll blow money like crazy, then feel guilty.Thank Lord, that does not happen too much!
9. Believe the worst about people I love. I always am suspicious about peope&think they ar up to no good, even when they have not hurt me. I call this self-preservation--but, people around me call it annoying that I don't trust them. But, getting hurt is so painful, I'd rather protect myself than regret it later.
10. I have one smart/cuting mouth when I am angry or hurt. I take no prisoners. I have brought even men to tears with my tongue by using the truth to destroy them. Once my Ex said my mouth would get me killed one day because the truth hurts people more than fiction&noone wants things hurled in their face the way I do it! Thank God I can control this hideous trait.....most of the time!
GOOD POINTS
1.Loyalty--Unless a person treats me pretty shabbily, I will stand by them. No strings, no questions asked. You treat me decently--I am yours to command!
2. Sense of Humor--as annoying as it can be, my sense of humor has kept me sane. I am glad I have it!
3. Except during my rare manic spending sprees, I am very frugal with money. This was one of the traits my Ex did like about me.
4. Very strong Person. A few years ago a lady commented that if ever we all were in a Prison Camp situation, I would probably be the only one to keep my sanity because of my personality. She knew all the thing I had endured in life&how even under pressure I did not get overly upset.
5. I usually accept things pretty well in life. Tomorrow is always another day!
6. I treat the men in my life good¬ just sexually. Maybe TOO good because I do get taken advantage of sometimes. But, I like to cook for a man&baby him so, its not a bad thing.
7. I don't complain much.I've learned Whining gets you nowhere in life but maybe someones toe up your ass! So, I usually keep my complaints to myself&find an answer instead of bothering somebody else who probably has problems of their own!
8. Humility. I know my place on the Pecking Order of Life. I don't think I am the lowest bird on the wire, but I'm not a Queen bee, either. At the same time I won't tolerate being treated like shit, --I am neither Blind, or Stupid!
