Stratovarius Community

icecab21 wrote:how busted was the stalker?

Lurdi wrote:

icecab21 wrote:how busted was the stalker?

What do you mean icecab? you're being ambiguous! Make it clear.

browneyedgirl wrote:

Babylon wrote:Single is the only way to be

Amen! Its nice and fun to have a special relationship but life can be complicated enough as is. I have had several brief relationships the past 10 years or so and some more serious than others, but I have remained friends with most of these guys. So, IMO, its best to start out as friends first, then if it ends later as a special relationship, the friendship remains. There is nothing much more hurtful or even embarassing than a really bad breakup that remains unresolved.

My abusive marriage ended over a decade ago and by its end I was echoing Rodney Dangerfield somewhat, "Take my husband.......please!"

Babylon wrote:

browneyedgirl wrote:

Babylon wrote:Single is the only way to be

Amen! Its nice and fun to have a special relationship but life can be complicated enough as is. I have had several brief relationships the past 10 years or so and some more serious than others, but I have remained friends with most of these guys. So, IMO, its best to start out as friends first, then if it ends later as a special relationship, the friendship remains. There is nothing much more hurtful or even embarassing than a really bad breakup that remains unresolved.

My abusive marriage ended over a decade ago and by its end I was echoing Rodney Dangerfield somewhat, "Take my husband.......please!"

My marriage ended 2 years ago and I am still enjoying being single and I still hate all men . Seriously tho, when you have a bad or painful experience, it is just hard to get involved with someone else simply because you don't want to get hurt again.

hiro23 wrote:I've been treated like an old pair of shoes in the past.

ggonza43 wrote:

Polaris wrote:Well I'm like a hermit, so I don't have that kind of problems!

But you at least must have HAD one of that! I guess...
In my case, it happened with my ex-girlfriend. There was this dude flirtting to her in front of my eyes, and we (my ex and I) got quite upset. After being with her for 1 year, she break up with me; and in about a month or 2, she was dating this bloke... Quite anoying, I guess

Polaris wrote:

ggonza43 wrote:

Polaris wrote:Well I'm like a hermit, so I don't have that kind of problems!

But you at least must have HAD one of that! I guess...
In my case, it happened with my ex-girlfriend. There was this dude flirtting to her in front of my eyes, and we (my ex and I) got quite upset. After being with her for 1 year, she break up with me; and in about a month or 2, she was dating this bloke... Quite anoying, I guess

Well I do not like talking about my personal life, but I've had some disappointments, including an unrequited love that hurt me a lot, but disappointments and frustrations are part of life & is good to us realize that happiness is not being placed with other people!
Nowadays I live my life without expecting anything in return, true love is unconditional!

hiro23 wrote:

Polaris wrote:

ggonza43 wrote: But you at least must have HAD one of that! I guess...
In my case, it happened with my ex-girlfriend. There was this dude flirtting to her in front of my eyes, and we (my ex and I) got quite upset. After being with her for 1 year, she break up with me; and in about a month or 2, she was dating this bloke... Quite anoying, I guess

Well I do not like talking about my personal life, but I've had some disappointments, including an unrequited love that hurt me a lot, but disappointments and frustrations are part of life & is good to us realize that happiness is not being placed with other people!
Nowadays I live my life without expecting anything in return, true love is unconditional!

Amen to that, if I get together with someone now it's because they like me for me, not because of what they think I could be

Lurdi wrote:

ggonza43 wrote:

hiro23 wrote:Icecab:sounds like the plot to Killer clowns from outer space

Back to topic, stalkers can be a serious problem, even if you don't know how to deal with them. I agree with the option of the cops, 'cause it's the easiest way to get over a problem like this. But again, taking sooo much time can turn into a disaster

But I'd really like to know what you mean by stalkers because not everyone would define them in the same way. If it's someone who is flirting with your boyfriend/girlfriend in a not violent way, I am sure you can sort out the matter by talking personally with that person. I wouldn't call that person a stalker at all.
But if on the contrary is someone who is constantly sending you text messages, chasing you all over the world, knowing every single move you make, even trying to rape you, that is REALLY HEAVY and of course I'd call the police beyond all doubt.
But girls are much more helpless than guys in these situations. I don't know any case of girls stalking guys.
Some months ago a German guy became absolutely obsessed with a Spanish actress he had seen in TV. He sent her plenty of love letters and she refused to have any contact with him, that he was not interested in having an affair with him. He even came to Madrid to meet her personally, but as she rejected him once again he became really angry and attacked her with a crossbow.Fortunately she was unhurt.